You're so right in realising that there is something preventing you from having the relationship you'd like to have with your money.
How many times have you heard the common truisms from the conventional money gurus of our time?
All you have to do is....spend less, earn more, budget well, save 20% etc.
So what is it about you that makes it so hard to move forward financially and so easy to avoid the bills, the low pay, the shabby home and clunky car?
There is one word that sums up all the possible blocks, issues, denial or whatever you name it.
That's it! Nice and simple.
It's all resistance! All the blame, all the frustration, all the self-pity and all the labels you've given yourself.
And all the forgetfulness, the disorganisation, the care-taking.
There is so much we do and create in our lives, whether we're aware of it or not, that is all about not wanting to stay present with something that may feel a bit yucky for a short time.
It's like there is this layer of unsightly gooey stuff between you and a life of grounded, solid control and security, between you and a life of financial peace.
And it's so powerful to use this one word, resistance, for everything because it cuts off your escape routes. It stops your mind from finding justifications, and then feeding them and then creating a whole identity out of them.
Here are some examples of how my resistance to working with my money shows up:
1. Not enforcing school attendance for my anxious boy who responds so well to pushing through is fears. Then I have no free time.
2. Not stopping for lunch so I end the week feeling burnt out with a mountain on my desk, instead of an ordered pile and an action plan for the following week.
3. Omg the house needs cleaning before I even think about doing my tracking and my monthly plan!! Obviously that MUST come first!!
4. If I spend time getting organised today then I can have more time tomorrow...
Believe me there are many many more!
So just begin, very gently and very kindly, reflecting on how your resistance to money work shows up for you. What reasons, what feelings or even sensations, come up.
Look back at the times when you have felt you were making good progress and then things slipped. What triggered the slip?
It will have been resistance manifesting on some level, in your relationships, in your physical world or maybe emotionally.
In my next blog I'll share how you can lovingly and respectfully smash through the goo!!